Japanese Wedding Traditions with a Modern Twist

Photography @jamieleephotographer

When you're planning a wedding that reflects your relationship, your style, and your culture—it’s all about the balance. For couples looking to thoughtfully incorporate Japanese wedding traditions into a modern celebration, there’s a way to honor heritage while still keeping things fresh, stylish, and totally personal.

Whether it’s a subtle nod or a standout moment in the day, blending in meaningful traditions can bring depth to your wedding without feeling too formal or old-fashioned. Here are a few of our favorite modern takes on timeless Japanese rituals.

San San Kudo: A Sip of Japanese Wedding Tradition 🍶

One of the most iconic rituals in a Japanese wedding is San San Kudo, which means “three-three-nine times.” It's a sake-sharing ceremony where the couple takes three sips from three different cups, symbolizing their bond and the union of their families.

Here’s how it works:

• You’ll use three stacked sake cups, starting from smallest to largest.

• Each person takes three sips from each cup, totaling nine sips, hence the name.

• The number nine represents longevity and good fortune in Japanese culture.

  
  

But let’s be real: it’s not just about sipping sake. This is a moment to pause, connect, and bring focus to the act of becoming a family, not just as a couple, but as two families coming together.

→ Modern Take: This is a perfect moment to slow down and add intentionality to your ceremony. You can use heirloom cups, sleek modern glassware, or even bring in your favorite drink if sake isn’t your thing. You can spotlight this moment right after your vows or as an introduction toast before your dinner reception.

It’s simple, elegant, and powerful... and guests love it.

Hikidemono: Guest Favors, Reimagined 🎁

In Japanese weddings, guests traditionally receive hikidemono—thank-you gifts that are beautifully packaged and thoughtfully chosen. It’s a subtle but meaningful way to express gratitude.

→ Rather than off-the-shelf favors, think curated boxes with locally made treats, hand-poured candles, or a nod to

your cultural background. We've helped clients design take-home gifts that double as table decor, functional and beautiful.

Oironaoshi: The Glamorous Dress Change

Traditionally, Oironaoshi refers to the bride changing into a different kimono after the ceremony. Today’s version? Multiple outfit changes, and it’s one of our favorite ways to elevate a reception.

→ Start in your ceremony look, then transition into something bold for the reception: a structured gown, a pop of color, or even a modern kimono silhouette. It’s not just about fashion, it’s about storytelling through style.

Honoring Parents in Meaningful Ways

In Japanese culture, weddings are about more than two people. It’s a celebration of family unity. Honoring your parents is a deeply valued tradition.

→ Modern Take: Write them a heartfelt letter and read it aloud during dinner, present a symbolic gift, or invite them to join in a special toast or ritual (like San San Kudo). Some couples even seat parents at the head table as an intentional nod to their support.

It’s subtle but powerful, and always one of the most emotional parts of the day.

Blending Culture + Personal Style

Including Japanese wedding traditions in your celebration doesn’t mean giving up on style or flow. With a little creativity, these rituals can feel incredibly personal, visually beautiful, and completely aligned with the wedding vibe you’re dreaming of.

From intimate moments to major statements, these customs add meaning and magic, and they’re so easy to tailor to you.

If you’re thinking about ways to include cultural traditions in a

modern, meaningful way, we’d love to help.

📆 Book a consultation to start planning a celebration that’s rich in meaning,

full of intention, and totally your vibe.

With Love & Life,

Makayla

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Featuring: Emma & Kevin's Wedding

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